• ^About Berna’s Vibe..The Way I See IT^
    • ~~~~Lyrical Lovers Poetry Lounge~~~~

Berna's Vibe~The Way I See IT….

Berna's Vibe~The Way I See IT….

Tag Archives: Soul

>I am NOT my HAIR….I am a SOUL that LIVES within<

13 Wednesday Feb 2013

Posted by Berna in ***DPCHALLENGE, *DP CHALLENGE>Post A Day*, =Self Discovery=, @Cultural, Motivational!, Positive Movement Topic, Post a Day 2013, ^^Thought Provoking^^, ~~FREE Flow of UNscripted Thoughts~~

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

Black America, Black History Month, Black woman, Black Women, Black women and their hair, Confidence, DP Post A Day 2013, DPCHALLENGE, Self esteem, Soul, Woman's glory

~I am NOT my hair. I am NOT this skin. I am NOT your expectations no, no. I am NOT my hair ! I am NOT this skin….I am a SOUL that lives within~Lyrics by India Aire. India Aire’s song suggests we aren’t our hair..While I can understand the point she’s making; I can’t personally relate. I do indeed feel our hair IS a reflection and self-expression of WHO we are; and whats going on inside of us. And while the Bible says that a woman’s hair is her GLORY; with BLACK  women I feel it is FAR more than that. IT defines us in ways that don’t just meet the “eye”; but also reveals our ESSENCE.

First things first..For many moons I’ve said the following  @ The Black hair care industry is a multi-million dollar industry; and the Black community is the LEAST to see any revenue from it! Ya’ll can google UP whose got the major control over the industry(cause I think most of us already know…); and also note the fact they’ve a. excluded non-Koreans(yep, you guessed it!) from the industry by refusing to distribute to them b. raised prices higher when distributing products to non-Koreans c. do NOT put revenue back into Black communities but INSTEAD put the revenue back into theirs….Now the question that is just begging to be answered is?!? WHY didn’t Blacks corner the market on their own hair products in the first place???? And now? Everyone has got their hands into the pot of gold regarding Black women’s hair care; except Black women. *slapping forehead* But there are alternatives…

The new hot debate is Natural vs. Relaxed or Weaves…and it can get quite heated! Not in the conversations I’ve engaged in though…Natural is the being called the New Black. I’ve even heard sista ‘s that went natural say they feel its disgusting when a sista either relaxes or wears a weave. WOW. and omg! as if we need yet another thing to divide us. Lawd! Personally I feel it is a woman’s choice to do what SHE pleases with her hair..IF she wants to wear a wolly mammoth atop her head; her business! IF she wants to pay upwards of $500 or more for really good natural fake hair; her business! If she wants to chop it all off and strut it bald; her business! And IF she wants to chemically relax her hair/hot comb it; her business! OUR hair is already scrutinized, styles stolen( Bo  Derek  took OUR braids to a whole new level…) and critiqued by everyone else as it is. Last thing that needs to happen now is in-fighting..so knock it off! Chill out and do your thing with YOUR hair; and respect others to do the same with theirs. Some sista’ s want to try to micro-manage everything and everybody..jeeeeez. Can’t we all just get along?!?

Here is my opinion regarding natural vs relaxed vs weaves vs bald. The bald state is an easy & quick answer. Hecks NO! I dig being versatile far too much to even consider it..Backintheday my exhusband used to say I’d be beautiful to him even if I was bald! Aww gotta love him but still NO WAY. I’ve seen beautiful Black women sport the bald look ; but not my style.

I’ve also seen beautiful sista’s rock weaves..Beyonce is NEVER without a weave. Ever…her natural hair is boy short. It is quite the norm now for anyone to go from boy short to waist long hair over night. And also quite costly. There are weaves you can’t tell aren’t real hair…Love the idea of being versatile as an option. But I like my scalp being able to breathe…I don’t even wear hats! When I want to run my hands through my scalp; I don’t want to pull back thread. Or worse; not have the freedom to run my hands through my hair. Different strokes for different folks and this just isn’t my style.

I’ve got MAD respect & regard for sista’s that sport their natural hair! The cost is lower than weaves/wigs and I hear it is very liberating….I’ve got male Black friends who will NOT date a woman who wears weaves/wigs/relaxers. They want it all natural…from head to toes.

And while the numbers of Black women who go natural is rising; the majority are still relaxing or semi-relaxing their hair. It is convenient and when maintained with natural conditioners/relaxers the hair is very healthy. I’ve been on the verge of going all natural; but I’ve not dived in with both feet yet. I’m semi there and I use double natural conditioners in my hair to keep it healthy & vibrant. Which takes  more time but to me its worth it. I love my hair long…and since its naturally thick I have an awesome time being able to wear many different styles. I don’t get angry when people ask if its real….Actually I think its very amusing “others” are SO obsessed with OUR hair enough to ask such a question. Bottom line is it  is our hair/ our choice. And that is the way I see it…Until I read/write ya’ll again stay UPlifted & blessed! 4 ever sincere, Berna(the one & only)

 

Feel free to share your 2 cents worth..

  • Share
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter
  • Tumblr
  • LinkedIn
  • Reddit
  • Print
  • Pocket

Like this:

Like Loading...

*Enter your email address to follow Berna's Vibe ~N~receive alerts of new posts by email..Stay tuned ~N~ buckle UP!

Join 372 other followers

*The One N Only..

I Voted

~~ Be Grateful~~** Jennifer Hudson**

‘Vibes Recently Posted by Berna!’

  • COSBY KARMA? April 28, 2018
  • An Under Examined Now: New Orleans April 28, 2018
  • VIDEO: Gabriel Ramirez – “On Realizing I Am Black” (NPS 2015) April 28, 2018
  • ~~~Shopping While BLACK~~~My 2 cents regarding the EPIC failure of the recent filmed Starbucks and Philly incident April 20, 2018
  • Does It Take An Ultimatum For A MAN To Propose Marriage? April 12, 2018
  • RACIAL DIVIDE IN POST OBAMA AMERICA***** January 1, 2018
  • THAT Talk WE Actually HATE That We Must HAVE – I’ve attempted to open this UP properly & to properly express aka! ReLeAsEeeee pent up feelings on THE topic since August …Letting this serve as a re-reminder to myself to gather the tons of fragments of thoughts in my mind & on scraps of paper so we can rap about it …..2Night 4 Sure? I hope so! @@@Coming SOON December 26, 2017

~BeCause I love 2 TALK about…

*DP Challenge* *DP Challenge*Post A Day 50th birthday 2013 Africa African American Culture African heritage of Blacks in America America American History Barack Obama Beautiful Life BLACK Black America Black Culture Black History Month Black love relationships black men Black Relationships Blacks in America Black Women Blessings blogging Blogging my fanny off.. Christian Communication Confidence Conversation Dating DPCHALLENGE DP Post A Day 2013 Education Fabulous 50 FAITH Family freedom Friends God Jesus journal Life Life journey Life lessons Love Love relationships Loyalty marriage Martin Luther King Men Music New Year Peace People Personal Evolvement Poetry Politics Positive Positive attitude PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA President of the United States Racism READ Reading Relationships Self awareness Self esteem Self Image Self love SEX Trayvon Martin United States UNITED States of America Women WordPress WordPress blogging Writing

~Berna’s Goodreads Book List~

>>Berna’s Vibe WordPress Readers>>

Blog Stats

  • 81,529 Views

******Blogs Berna Reads on WordPress******

  • Creative Rock Storm, Rocking Til The End
  • The Private Man
  • zahra dalilah
  • VELMA DUKE REVIEW
  • so long as it's words
  • The Belle Jar
  • Chocolate Vent
  • Passion For Truths
  • I Am Begging My Mother Not To Read This Blog
  • The Order of Turbulence
  • James Michael Sama
  • Why We Blog
  • She's A Maineiac
  • Intellectual Consortium Uncovered
  • L i m i t l e s s S k i e s
  • Shun P. Writes... HERE! Dot Com
  • KIMBILIO [FICTION]
  • movingblack
  • V e t P o l i t i c s
  • bodycrimes
  • Stefan Lawrence
  • The Chatter Blog
  • I.AM.WO.MAN
  • Afroculinaria
  • Life Out of the Box
  • The Accidental Missionary
  • Too Much Bot
  • PERFECT MAN
  • Large Print Treasury
  • Sisterhood Agenda
  • extended mind: blog
  • Authored Angioplasty
  • Nicole's ramblings
  • it's a wonderful vita
  • Cave to Cliff
  • Drew G. I. Hart
  • The BLACK Media
  • MassCommons
  • MATHEW GILBERT
  • Stephen Chukumba
  • Tommy Tomlinson
  • Resist racism
  • Friends Don't Let Friends...
  • MCHLJUNIOR
  • America The NOT SO Beautiful
  • The Justin McElroy Institute
  • There And (Almost) Back Again
  • guidetowomen.wordpress.com/
  • Via Ex Machina
  • NeuroNotes

Blog at WordPress.com.

Creative Rock Storm, Rocking Til The End

I've learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom how great is that? - Soledad O'Brien

The Private Man

Attraction and dating information for all men

zahra dalilah

VELMA DUKE REVIEW

we review books & tell stories

so long as it's words

so long as it's words... words and worlds

The Belle Jar

"Let me live, love and say it well in good sentences." - Sylvia Plath

Chocolate Vent

Just saying what's on my mind...even the crazy things!

Passion For Truths

Truths liberate the Soul

I Am Begging My Mother Not To Read This Blog

The Order of Turbulence

it's a mess out there

James Michael Sama

Keynote Speaker | Leadership Consultant | Life Coach

Why We Blog

Show your colors

She's A Maineiac

just another plaid-wearin' java-sippin' girl

Intellectual Consortium Uncovered

the voice of the millennial Negro movement

L i m i t l e s s S k i e s

The moment we give in to prejudice, we stop living.

Shun P. Writes... HERE! Dot Com

Those ongoing narratives of discovery - at the intersection of social media and the search for God's face.

KIMBILIO [FICTION]

movingblack

Middle passage, emigration, immigration, windrush, backpacking...crossing seas is different when you're black

V e t P o l i t i c s

politics from a liberal veteran's perspective

bodycrimes

Stefan Lawrence

"For when the One Great Scorer comes to write against your name, he marks - not that you won or lost - but how you played the game". - Grantland Rice, Alumunus Football, 1941.

The Chatter Blog

Living: All Day Every Day: Then Chattering About It

I.AM.WO.MAN

Just a young woman believing there's more to life than what meets the eye est. 2013

Afroculinaria

Exploring Culinary Traditions of Africa, African America and the African Diaspora

Life Out of the Box

The Accidental Missionary

A regular guy tryin' to figure it out

Too Much Bot

We Done Begun

PERFECT MAN

Just another WordPress.com weblog

Large Print Treasury

We're printing classics in large print because we hate tiny print!

Sisterhood Agenda

extended mind: blog

thinking, technology and the future

Authored Angioplasty

A Poem Project

Nicole's ramblings

A blog on mental health, personal reflections, social commentary, and some other things in between

it's a wonderful vita

Cave to Cliff

One woman's journey from darkness to light

Drew G. I. Hart

Teacher. Author. Activist.

The BLACK Media

No Gossip! No Rumors! No Negativity! Celebrity News

MassCommons

MATHEW GILBERT

Family. Ministry. Theology. Writing.

Stephen Chukumba

Musings of a Flawed Mind

Tommy Tomlinson

Thoughts on sports, music, books and other wonderful things

Resist racism

and eat your carrots

Friends Don't Let Friends...

"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You too? I thought I was the only one." CS Lewis

MCHLJUNIOR

Sighs of a Thinker

America The NOT SO Beautiful

The Justin McElroy Institute

The work blog of Justin McElroy

There And (Almost) Back Again

A Theological and Philosophical Journey Through the American Christian Landscape

guidetowomen.wordpress.com/

Via Ex Machina

Periodic Thoughts on the Intersection(s) of Life and Faith

NeuroNotes

NeuroResearchProject.com -- It's about the brain. It's about the environment. It's about being human.

Cancel
loading Cancel
Post was not sent - check your email addresses!
Email check failed, please try again
Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email.
%d bloggers like this: