• ^About Berna’s Vibe..The Way I See IT^
    • ~~~~Lyrical Lovers Poetry Lounge~~~~

Berna's Vibe~The Way I See IT….

Berna's Vibe~The Way I See IT….

Tag Archives: Real

^What Makes a Woman WIFE Material^ From an EXwife’s Perspective

25 Thursday Jul 2013

Posted by Berna in ^^Thought Provoking^^

≈ 5 Comments

Tags

Bonding, Connection, Dating, Lifemate qualities, Love, Love relationships, marriage, Real, Relationships, SEX, Soulmate, Wife Material, WordPress blogging

..It’s NO secret I loved being married!/miss being married/and WILL be married one last time..Its also no secret I’ve been on the longest dating-marriage-hiatus I’ve ever been on..3 yrs to be exact..Its been good for me & I’ve used my time wisely to do ME..But enough is enough..For one thing this celibacy thing is NO laughing matter..It GOT real rough(I actually think I went through WITHdrawals..Ugh)..And end of September? Once I clear a few more things off my to-do list; I’m officially putting myself back on the market. I might even become a multi-dater for a quick minute; because time is precious..And? My next deadline is rapidly approaching..I said I’d be “engaged” by the end of the year I made 50 yrs old. So its time for me to get a social life & get BUSY. Y’all ready for this list of wife material stuff? >>

( These aren’t in any specific order at all..Just a list of things I learned from experiencing marriage/experience divorce UGH I do NOT ever want to go through divorce again/observing my parents marriage of 51 yrs and going strong../taking notes from my male friends.

> Ladies, do NOT ask for your significant other’s OPINION; if you really don’t want to hear the truth. Excellent friend of mine told me, ‘ Do NOT ask a question; that you really do NOT want the answer to’ For instance..That pathetic question @ Honey, do I look FAT in this dress??? OMG knowing dang full well that IF he says you DO look like a fat; you’re going to be MAD at him for the rest of the night..2nd part of this IS..Appreciate your man’s opinion for what it IS. His opinion…If you can’t appreciate/respect/and truly LISTEN to your man’s opinion? Then your man just might be with the wrong woman. Moving right along>>

ONE of guys biggest pet peeves about women IS the nagging & whining! Ladies? IF you’ve got something that you’re SO unhappy about it makes you whine & bitch & moan alll the time; work to CHANGE it. It really IS just that simple..What is funny about it is women who whine & complain? Do NOT like to be around other woman who do it..So WHY torture your man with it? I might catch some heat from women for that; but y’all know it is the TRUTH. And to piggy back on that; I’m a heterosexual woman and I get tired of being around women who NAG. OMG enough is enough..IF you feel the need to nag & correct & micromanage your man allll the time? Then you might just be with the WRONG man..Quietly agree to be just friends..IF he doesn’t figure it out first and RUN>>

Don’t “act” one way to snag your man; then change UP …Most men want you to be REAL..They’ll respect that alot more than “airs” & “fakeness”..Bottom line is it is either a match or not..And it is better to know before marriage; and not during the marriage. People evolve as it is..Part of the magic of long-term relationships is maintaining ‘the connection’; through the evolvements..BUT if you start with being a LIE; than said relationship is doomed from the onset. >>

Appreciate and RESPECT your man..IN public or alone together; men want to be respected just as women do. I hear women say often; they want to marry UP..I’ve yet to meet a man though who wants to be treated like a big, fat wallet! Times have changed; we women saw to that when we GOT the liberation we wanted..Respect & appreciate your man & he’ll spoil you forever..>>

Contrary to the rumor , from what I’ve heard, men don’t marry bitches..So forget what you heard..Men are attracted to women who are genuine and kind. It isn’t something that can be faked nor conjured up either..Just comes naturally. And when you treat your guy like a king; he’ll treat you like the queen that you are>>

I’ll be back on this topic in September when I’m back on the market..Till then happy hunting girlfriends!

Feel free to share your 2 cents worth..

  • Share
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter
  • Tumblr
  • LinkedIn
  • Reddit
  • Print
  • Pocket

Like this:

Like Loading...

*Enter your email address to follow Berna's Vibe ~N~receive alerts of new posts by email..Stay tuned ~N~ buckle UP!

Join 372 other followers

*The One N Only..

I Voted

~~ Be Grateful~~** Jennifer Hudson**

‘Vibes Recently Posted by Berna!’

  • COSBY KARMA? April 28, 2018
  • An Under Examined Now: New Orleans April 28, 2018
  • VIDEO: Gabriel Ramirez – “On Realizing I Am Black” (NPS 2015) April 28, 2018
  • ~~~Shopping While BLACK~~~My 2 cents regarding the EPIC failure of the recent filmed Starbucks and Philly incident April 20, 2018
  • Does It Take An Ultimatum For A MAN To Propose Marriage? April 12, 2018
  • RACIAL DIVIDE IN POST OBAMA AMERICA***** January 1, 2018
  • THAT Talk WE Actually HATE That We Must HAVE – I’ve attempted to open this UP properly & to properly express aka! ReLeAsEeeee pent up feelings on THE topic since August …Letting this serve as a re-reminder to myself to gather the tons of fragments of thoughts in my mind & on scraps of paper so we can rap about it …..2Night 4 Sure? I hope so! @@@Coming SOON December 26, 2017

~BeCause I love 2 TALK about…

*DP Challenge* *DP Challenge*Post A Day 50th birthday 2013 Africa African American Culture African heritage of Blacks in America America American History Barack Obama Beautiful Life BLACK Black America Black Culture Black History Month Black love relationships black men Black Relationships Blacks in America Black Women Blessings blogging Blogging my fanny off.. Christian Communication Confidence Conversation Dating DPCHALLENGE DP Post A Day 2013 Education Fabulous 50 FAITH Family freedom Friends God Jesus journal Life Life journey Life lessons Love Love relationships Loyalty marriage Martin Luther King Men Music New Year Peace People Personal Evolvement Poetry Politics Positive Positive attitude PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA President of the United States Racism READ Reading Relationships Self awareness Self esteem Self Image Self love SEX Trayvon Martin United States UNITED States of America Women WordPress WordPress blogging Writing

~Berna’s Goodreads Book List~

>>Berna’s Vibe WordPress Readers>>

Blog Stats

  • 81,527 Views

******Blogs Berna Reads on WordPress******

  • Creative Rock Storm, Rocking Til The End
  • The Private Man
  • zahra dalilah
  • VELMA DUKE REVIEW
  • so long as it's words
  • The Belle Jar
  • Chocolate Vent
  • Passion For Truths
  • I Am Begging My Mother Not To Read This Blog
  • The Order of Turbulence
  • James Michael Sama
  • Why We Blog
  • She's A Maineiac
  • Intellectual Consortium Uncovered
  • L i m i t l e s s S k i e s
  • Shun P. Writes... HERE! Dot Com
  • KIMBILIO [FICTION]
  • movingblack
  • V e t P o l i t i c s
  • bodycrimes
  • Stefan Lawrence
  • The Chatter Blog
  • I.AM.WO.MAN
  • Afroculinaria
  • Life Out of the Box
  • The Accidental Missionary
  • Too Much Bot
  • PERFECT MAN
  • Large Print Treasury
  • Sisterhood Agenda
  • extended mind: blog
  • Authored Angioplasty
  • Nicole's ramblings
  • it's a wonderful vita
  • Cave to Cliff
  • Drew G. I. Hart
  • The BLACK Media
  • MassCommons
  • MATHEW GILBERT
  • Stephen Chukumba
  • Tommy Tomlinson
  • Resist racism
  • Friends Don't Let Friends...
  • MCHLJUNIOR
  • America The NOT SO Beautiful
  • The Justin McElroy Institute
  • There And (Almost) Back Again
  • guidetowomen.wordpress.com/
  • Via Ex Machina
  • NeuroNotes

Blog at WordPress.com.

Creative Rock Storm, Rocking Til The End

I've learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom how great is that? - Soledad O'Brien

The Private Man

Attraction and dating information for all men

zahra dalilah

VELMA DUKE REVIEW

we review books & tell stories

so long as it's words

so long as it's words... words and worlds

The Belle Jar

"Let me live, love and say it well in good sentences." - Sylvia Plath

Chocolate Vent

Just saying what's on my mind...even the crazy things!

Passion For Truths

Truths liberate the Soul

I Am Begging My Mother Not To Read This Blog

The Order of Turbulence

it's a mess out there

James Michael Sama

Keynote Speaker | Leadership Consultant | Life Coach

Why We Blog

Show your colors

She's A Maineiac

just another plaid-wearin' java-sippin' girl

Intellectual Consortium Uncovered

the voice of the millennial Negro movement

L i m i t l e s s S k i e s

The moment we give in to prejudice, we stop living.

Shun P. Writes... HERE! Dot Com

Those ongoing narratives of discovery - at the intersection of social media and the search for God's face.

KIMBILIO [FICTION]

movingblack

Middle passage, emigration, immigration, windrush, backpacking...crossing seas is different when you're black

V e t P o l i t i c s

politics from a liberal veteran's perspective

bodycrimes

Stefan Lawrence

"For when the One Great Scorer comes to write against your name, he marks - not that you won or lost - but how you played the game". - Grantland Rice, Alumunus Football, 1941.

The Chatter Blog

Living: All Day Every Day: Then Chattering About It

I.AM.WO.MAN

Just a young woman believing there's more to life than what meets the eye est. 2013

Afroculinaria

Exploring Culinary Traditions of Africa, African America and the African Diaspora

Life Out of the Box

The Accidental Missionary

A regular guy tryin' to figure it out

Too Much Bot

We Done Begun

PERFECT MAN

Just another WordPress.com weblog

Large Print Treasury

We're printing classics in large print because we hate tiny print!

Sisterhood Agenda

extended mind: blog

thinking, technology and the future

Authored Angioplasty

A Poem Project

Nicole's ramblings

A blog on mental health, personal reflections, social commentary, and some other things in between

it's a wonderful vita

Cave to Cliff

One woman's journey from darkness to light

Drew G. I. Hart

Teacher. Author. Activist.

The BLACK Media

No Gossip! No Rumors! No Negativity! Celebrity News

MassCommons

MATHEW GILBERT

Family. Ministry. Theology. Writing.

Stephen Chukumba

Musings of a Flawed Mind

Tommy Tomlinson

Thoughts on sports, music, books and other wonderful things

Resist racism

and eat your carrots

Friends Don't Let Friends...

"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You too? I thought I was the only one." CS Lewis

MCHLJUNIOR

Sighs of a Thinker

America The NOT SO Beautiful

The Justin McElroy Institute

The work blog of Justin McElroy

There And (Almost) Back Again

A Theological and Philosophical Journey Through the American Christian Landscape

guidetowomen.wordpress.com/

Via Ex Machina

Periodic Thoughts on the Intersection(s) of Life and Faith

NeuroNotes

NeuroResearchProject.com -- It's about the brain. It's about the environment. It's about being human.

Cancel
loading Cancel
Post was not sent - check your email addresses!
Email check failed, please try again
Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email.
%d bloggers like this: