Berna, you had mentioned that you wanted to try out online dating to find your soul mate. I think it’s a great way to meet people, and you definitely should try it. But, as you know, you can’t always trust an online profile, and as a guy, I must warn you of a few types of guys you should stay away from based on their profiles…
1) The guy’s profile picture is his shirtless photo: Avoid: this guy is clearly so broke that he can’t even afford to buy a shirt>>
** It is my HONOR to present as my first GUEST POST(yay!) to y’all the awesome ONE & only , List of X! He’s my fave fellow W.P. blogger and someone I also feel comfy enough to call “friend”..As soon as I find pictures to accompany the rest of his list of 10, I’ll post the rest of his list. Always funny yet with a hint of REALness ; his lists have become infamous on WordPress….**
..Well, I was going to ad-lib on the 10 on the list..HOWEVER..It appears that many are waiting on this list..THIS is so so exciting! So without further delay here is the rest of the LIST from the ‘List of X’>>
2) The guy has a professional profile photo where he looks suspiciously like Brad Pitt: Skip, unless you are prepared to deal with his furious wife that looks suspiciously like Angelina Jolie.
Station BREAK..OMG I can’t go any further yet without saying one little thing..I think I just might have to deal with Angelina’s wrath IF I got the chance to spend an hour with BRAD PITT..OMG..Hate to think things like that; BUT just ONE hour and *ahem* Brad would be saying , “Angelina WHO???” Alright I’m finished day dreaming; moving right along>>
3) The guy is “looking for a serious relationship”: Be careful: that doesn’t mean that the guy wants to get married and have children. He may just be lacking any sense of humor.
4) The guy sends you a personal message consisting of “Hi” with three or more spelling errors: Edit him out: do you really want to let this guy write your life story with you?
5) The guy’s profile picture is a photo taken from a far away. Stay away: how could you expect to be close to that guy, if he can’t even convince his photographer to get within walking distance of him?
6) The guy put “having fun” as the only entry in the “Hobbies and interests” section: Run! The guy probably didn’t get specific about what he considers “fun” only because his idea of “fun” is illegal in all 50 states.
7) The guy’s profile photo shows him sitting in an expensive sports car. Steer clear of him: the guy is either a rich arrogant jerk, or was just caught stealing the car of some rich arrogant jerk.
8) The guy’s photo that was obviously cropped to remove another woman: the guy apparently spends all his time hugging a woman, and since you can’t be with him at all times, he’ll be hugging someone else when you’re not looking. Crop out his profile before it’s too late.
9) The guy’s only profile picture is a photo of his junk. Beware; the guy is former Congressman Anthony Weiner.
10) The guy is holding a gun in his profile picture. By the size of the gun, you can already tell that the guy is compensating for something, and it’s probably not the lack of security in his neighborhood.
BONUS because I didn’t want to waste ANY of List of X’s creativity!
The guy is wearing sunglasses in all his profile pictures: This may mean one of the three things: the guy is a vampire, or weed smoker, or always has to cover up the black eye from constant bar fights.
I’ve waited ALL day long figuring someone/ANYone would sound off on this topic while I was offline..Certainly someone out there has a good, JUICY story to share about an online dating experience? Or how about a nightmarish online dating incident? Anyone out there on the verge of taking the plunge by joining an online dating site??? Trying to save my comments until someone comments..So come on y’all sound OFF & share…
As always I’ve got something to say ..I’m not a good fence-rider at all; I usually tilt one way or another on just about any & everything under the sun. Literally…Want to know what my thoughts are on the prospect of looking for love online? This is the way I see IT>
I’ve wondered what type of person uses an online dating site..Wouldn’t they have to be desperate? Don’t they have enough social skills to meet & connect with someone in the offline real world? Haven’t we all heard the horrific horror stories from online encounters?>
How would you know IF a person was being honest on an online dating site? What motivates a person to resort to seeking love online? All of these questions and more come to mind…One would think with all of the potential scams that online dating would be declining. Yet, recent statistics show the number of people participating is climbing. Its at an all time high according to current stats=40 million folks in the U.S. have used online dating sites/140 million folks in China have used online dating sites./The Porn Industry blames its $74 million decline on online dating sites/Average length of courtship prior to marriage from online dating is 18.5 months. Average length of courtship prior to marriage from offline dating is 42 months/20% of single people have dated someone they met online/20% of newly committed people in relationships met on an online dating site…>
I recall after my divorce I said I’d never consider an online dating site..I’ve evolved in leaps & bound since then & have now learned to not utter the phrase” I’ll never do….” again. Life has a way of making us eat our words sometimes or better yet to re-think things. After all there are 2 sides to every coin, right? I’m hardly desperate but I am highly selective(some call it picky) I think there is a difference between being picky vs. selective. I know what I want/what I need/my worth/my flaws/my weaknesses/my strengths/my best attributes/all that I have to offer a mate/and what I deserve in a man..>
I’m considered , and I totally agree!, to be an otherwise intelligent person..So why would I NOT contemplate broadening my love horizons by dating online?!? After much deliberation that is my new conclusion I’m quickly arriving at..surprise you? More than sure it will surprise most of the people who know me well also! Theres more>
Its been said & proven one can meet a total freak!/killer/rapist/pervert!/selfish/UGLY/morally corrupt/& spiritually bankrupt person..on an online dating site. BUT can’t the same also be said for people we meet in offline circumstances? Remember backintheday when singles met & linked UP at clubs? AND, mind you, couldn’t even hear each other talk over the music?? Which setting IS a good place for singles to meet these days? Is Church the only place to meet a potential lifemate? The grocery market? Library?(can’t talk in there!..though I’ve tried hard to whisper..and discovered I don’t know how to whisper) What place these days affords those of us with oh-so-busy schedules to link up for potential love relationships?>
Well from my window seat and soon to be on the market..with my schedule? IF I don’t get PROactive in the love game; I’ll be single for far longer than I have any intention of being..I refuse! Or at this rate & pace & selection-available-per-my-present-surroundings?!? I’ll soon either a. Be a Nun(lawd! even saying that is weirding me out. b. Lose my natural born mind from hormonal overdose c. adopt a child that needs a home to release all the love I have inside(awwww, honestly, that thought just entered my mind..BUT the idea was instantly reduced down to adopting a puppy instead) So given the aforementioned options; I’ve thought of a few benefits of possibly giving an online dating site a try>
#2. I have a high appreciation for a brother who can express himself in written form. And if he can write poetry? Major bonus. Communicating online would give me a chance to see how he or if he can write his thoughts out..Communication is a must in any relationship. Least if he can write it out; if we work out, he can write his thoughts on paper to me. By any means necessary
#3. With the loaded schedule I’ve got this mode of meeting my potential “the one” would really broaden my horizons. It would also allow us to communicate around both of our schedules. Talk about convenient! Win-win situation until we decide on a meet & greet in person. (is that what they even call it ?)
I know people who have tried the online dating scene ..there are pro’s & con’s just as there are to dating offline. I also know people who have married who met online & seem happy. Truth be told its not something I’ll be jumping into tomorrow or even next week. But I’ve come a long way to even considering it…and for me? Thats truly a progressiveness to thinking outside the box. I don’t think these days a woman can sit & wait for love to knock on her door. Seems far smarter to put myself in the ballpark if I want to play ball..and I DO. (those words have a beautiful ring to them…)