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Why Dating Is Best @ 50

Posted on by Berna

IN a recent poll Americans overwhelmingly agreed that 50 IS the best age for..Everything! Here is my take on why dating is better now that I’m finally 50 yrs old>>

I am stronger..Simply put the stakes are higher at this age..No time for B.S./games/losers/or crap shots!

I am better..Though consistently striving for improvement; I’m about the best I’ve ever been. So if any potential date is reading this? Bring your A game & leave your ‘representative’ at home..Likewise I’m going to be me 24/7.

I am wiser..Exclamation point. Period.

I’m still not ready to reveal personal details about the dates I’ve been on..Mayhaps I never will..I can say, without a doubt though , that it has been far different from dating in my 20s..Gone are the insecurities felt backintheday..Take me or leave me; and more than likely we’ll part as friends.. I’ve met a couple of really awesome guys who are catches by any standard..And its been FUN..I laugh sometimes till my ribs hurt. Literally..Recently went horse back riding for the first time in eons! My butt hurt a bit more than it did in my 20s; but I didn’t fall off the horse..I’m due to go skating this weekend & hope to discover I still CAN..I’d LOVE to hear the song @ ‘Bounce, Rock, Skate, Roll’..Anyone out there recall that song?? OMG the skating song of ALL time! Though I don’t feel I’ve met my ‘The One’ yet; I’ve got a couple more people I can call genuine friends..The beauty of dating at 50? It is OK to admit early on it isn’t a love match…I love IT. Anyways until I write/read y’all again stay UPlifted & blessed..4ever Sincere, Berna(the 1 & only)

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    1. Hey my Sista, waving!!! Wish me luck I’ve NOT skated since our sons were babies..And that is a very long time ago . But we only live once, right? I’ve wanted to go skating for eons now..Still time to reach my last goal for 2013. Ooooo la LA..Any prospects on your end? I do SO miss the dating scene in Cali OMG it is so different from here..I could go on & on about that

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      1. I’m glad you’re getting back out there. Have fun & don’t be afraid to fall (if you have to). lol!

        I am dating a lot but had a setback recently – last week, as a matter of fact – I just found out that this guy I was dating for 2 months is living with his child’s mother. *heavy sigh* He didn’t want to tell me but I kept pressing as to why he hadn’t invited me over yet. I think I’ll blog about it “I Was The Side Chick & Didn’t Even Know It” Well at least I know why he didn’t mind me being celibate.

        And of course to make matters worse, I actually kinda liked this one. =( Oh well, on to the next!

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        1. Ahhhh I was wondering how you were handling the celibacy thing..More on that after I get your response to this question…So, after you pressed him & he finally confessed to living with the child of his mother..Did he offer an excuse for that? I mean did he say they weren’t “together”; but just living together for financial reasons? Or was he just trying to have his cake & eat it also? (literally..) Certainly he said something when he admitted it..

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          1. He said he was still there for the sake of his son but he is ready to leave her. He said that he honestly wanted to leave her before she got pregnant in the first place (they were already living together at that point).

            I hope that he’s not with her for financial reasons – he’s in his mid 40’s and should be stable enough to live on his own. And the “girlfriend” already had a child when they got together, so I think she would be getting 2 separate child support checks anyway. It seems like they aren’t “together” as it sounds like she is fed up with him too. But the thing is, he moved in with her not the other way around (I don’t know why – maybe so she wouldn’t have to move her older child).

            He did apologize for not telling me sooner & coming clean about it. He said he “didn’t want to lose me.” I think in the beginning he wanted his cake & wanted to eat it too because he said he didn’t know he would like me so much. But now he feels bad about deceiving me & that I should be patient and wait for him to move out. He supposedly really cares for me.

            I’ve kind of cut him off, although he wants to see me in person so we can “talk about it”. And all this just happened last Friday. Whew!

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            1. OK, I asked for a reason..Because sometimes things can be “complicated”..Which is why sometimes folks don’t explain things from the ONSET..But they really should..However had he told you the truth from the start? That he was still living with his X(according to his word) Would you have dated him? And btw, it is for that reason alone that IF I were in your shoes; I’d DUMP him..Why? Cause he should’ve been true to the situation & told the truth..Then mayhaps you’d have believed him..

              BUT having said that..His situation is more than likely he can’t afford to move out yet..I’m of course guessing and assuming..However these days? It is rare for people to even “think” they have to live together to raise children together..Bottom line IS he knows he’ll have to pay more money if he parts..He’ll have to pay child support..My opinion? If I were him I’d want my freedom more than saving a few pennies..I’d live in my car , if that is what it took, and move..For if she is as tired of him as you say; they’re probably having arguements …And that is NOT good for their child. Not even on a good day is that a good situation for their child..

              Also..I personally know people who live together after they’re no longer a couple..It is a sign of the times..I’ve got an aunt who has to move in with her X husband after the recession…They were friends enough to make it work. Till this day…But they’ve known each other a very , very long time..I also lived with my X husband years after our divorce; for a brief time. After the recession hit; it just made sense for a minute. And it was a WONDERFUL experience for our youngest son..(it was years back during his senior year of high school..) But? We were already very good friends by then..And I’d known him a very, very long time..A decision was mutually made & we did it..Though? Anyone either of us dated during that year? We told from the onset of dating..That is a MUST. And lastly? Even here in Florida I know people who lived together after their divorce for a bit..And dated other people…

              Not sure if that info helps you..But just saying; people can live together sometimes without being romantically involved..A room mate type of situation…Remember when people divorce or split? It has a major impact on financial matters..takes a bit to pull it all back together. Especially for women !

              If he’s at the least going to be someone you continue to friend..I’d meet with him in person to talk it out. Or on the phone..But it would take a while for me , personally, to get over being angry at him for not being honest from the start..After I healed from that? I’d probably friend him…For I know if I picked him to let him date me? He’s a good man..Good luck hon & as always keep me updated. Hugs!

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                1. Cool..I look forward to hearing your updates..Sometimes hearing someone out, or mutually airing things out, is good for both parties..If nothing else; healthy closure. I know he’s got to be a good guy because you chose him

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            1. You made me go back to take a 2nd look..So you didn’t copy & paste those..Oh! I figured something out all on my own..In order to be able to do custom backgrounds like you do? I’d have to have the same theme page or one that allows custom backgrounds..The one I’m using doesn’t

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                1. I didn’t know if it did or didn’t..Well wait; I knew it allowed custom headers..That much I’ve learned how to do on here..But I didn’t know if it allowed custom backgrounds or not. And honestly? None of the other blogs I visit; change(their backgrounds ) even half as much as you do

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                  1. Well it’s like with my furniture in my house and apartment…why keep the same shit when you can change it up and move it around? It keeps the blog looking fresh & new….people come back just to see what the hell I’ve done lately.

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                    3. Ahhhhh often I’ve wished you didn’t live so far, far away..But anyways, question. Because my curiosity has gotten the best of me..What is your opinion on Oprah’s comments (during the BBC interview ..) that President Obama has faced racism? And Limbaugh’s response?

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